Lauren Hale at Sharing the Journey has a couple of really great posts today that I wanted to bring your attention to. Her blog is linked in my blogroll and for good reason – it’s a great blog that combines her transparency as a mom of three and her experiences with PPD with reports on PPD happenings and research.
Today, Lauren shared her thoughts on two topics: blog as support for PPD recovery and how people have misused, and sometimes quite insensitively, the term “postpartum depression.”
I have been learning a lot about the blog world as I write these two blogs (this one and my personal blog) and what an incredible community it is. I was reading on one mom’s blog who delivered a baby – and that baby was immediately airlifted to another hospital. The parents arrived to find blog readers ready and waiting to comfort them, help them, bring them food and gifts, etc. People they had never met! Can you imagine? Technology never fails to amaze me. The connections people make online can be uplifting and encouraging, especially through challenging and dark times.
Such as postpartum depression.
Writing and blogging about one’s experience with postpartum depression can be healing not only for the writer but for the suffering mom who connects to that blog and knows she is not alone. Not everyone may feel they can share what they are going through on such a forum as a blog, and that is ok. If that is you, just search and read. Know you are not alone. If you are the writer, share and also seek and read, knowing that you are not alone.
As a survivor, letting women know that I have been there and they will get through it, too, is healing for me. It makes my journey worth it. As a Christian, the fruit of a horrible experience ultimately brings glory to God. That brings me joy.
In Lauren’s second post, she discussed the insensitivity of people to apply the term “postpartum depression” to situations that have nothing to do with postpartum depression. They use it lightly, off the cuff, and with no regard or respect for those who have nearly lost their lives to it or to those who have lost their lives to it.
And I 100% agree with her. I even, admittedly, get bothered when people confuse “baby blues” with “postpartum depression” or think that they went through PPD when all they experienced was baby blues for a week or two. There really is a BIG difference.
Would you jokingly use the term “plane crash” when sitting next to a person who just survived one?
Would you flippantly say “kill the kid” when standing near a mom who just buried her child?
Would you tell someone you are experiencing “postpartum depression” because you miss the holiday season when their wife committed suicide six months ago because of PPD?
Take it seriously, folks. Be compassionate no matter what terminology you are using.
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